Re-Engage : Never The Same Twice

There is a scene early in the 1990 movie The NeverEnding Story II: The Next Chapter where the protagonist Bastian Bux has this exchange with the book seller Mr. Coreander:

Koreander: [spotting Bastian with the book] Put it back!

re-engage, re-read
Jonathan Brandis and Thomas Hill in The NeverEnding Story II: The Next Chapter (1990)
[Bastian jumps and ends up slamming the book shut].

Koreander: That book has too much on you.

Bastian Bux: But it’s “The NeverEnding Story.” I’ve already read it.

Koreander: Ahh, but have you ever read a book twice? Books change each time you read them.

This stuck with me since then. And while at the time I thought it had to do more with the books themselves, with time I realized it was because I was never the same. When I re-engage with the book, when I sat down to re-read it, it wasn’t that the book itself changed but that with time I was a different person.

I think this is a key thing to keep in mind when thinking about reader reactions and how we engage and re-engage with media. This doesn’t apply to books only, you don’t watch the same movie twice. I would even argue you don’t hear the same song twice. And it all comes back down to that simple fact- if you are not the same person, you are not engaging the same way.

Why Re-engage?

Some people read or watch something just once. Usually it’s under the idea that once they know the story, there is no surprises to be had. What is interesting is that when you think about it, this is something most people grow into. Almost everyone had that book or movie (or both) they would go over and over as kids.

re-watching, re-engage
The memories of the point where there was no amount of tracking that could save these.

When we are little it seems that among the things we knew and then forget is the fact that stories are constantly evolving when you read them. With the same certainty that we knew our toys moved on their own, we would watch the same thing over and over until it broke and still enjoyed it the same as the first time. To me it even seems like we would enjoy it even more. We knew the songs, we could excitedly anticipate plot points, and we could begin to see more of what went on beyond the story too.

So why do we loose this when we are older? Not everyone does of course, there is still some of us that re-engage with media constantly. And I am willing to bet almost everyone has had that moment when they are browsing Netflix and even if you have a long queue of things to watch you settle in to see that series or movie you already know by heart. thats one of the aspects, the comfort there is with knowing the story. Even high tension moments that still can cause your heart to race, you are made more comforting by knowing that all will be ok. So when we watch or read a story we know we have the comfort of that certainty.

The Evolving Engager

But I want to go back to a key part in my argument. You yourself are not the same as the person who first read the book or watched the movie. The me who first picked up Jane Eyre and the me that re-reads it or re-watches it now is not the same. When I re-engage with Jane and her story now at 30 it is not the same as when I first engaged with it at 17. Sure I still love Jane’s declaration of not being a bird, of not being a machine, and defending her feelings and her personhood. But I no longer find Rochester’s games as charming. I mean, recently I even began feeling a little bad for Blanche Ingram. Even things I have always liked, like how I always felt an attachment to Antoinette Mason, is no longer the same. The first time I read Wide Sargasso Sea I was a first year college student. When I re-read it recently I had a harder time feeling bad for the ex-slave owning protagonist even if I still felt she was played a bad card when it came to Rochester.

re-engage, re-read
I know she eventually comes back but do you know how good it felt to read this?

That’s what is important here I feel. That we change as much as the stories and that adds new dimensions even to things we thought we knew well. It’s not only about noticing the little details, like say for example re-watching a movie like The Prestige and suddenly realizing all the tells. About how you also maybe re-examine how the main plot affected the characters around when you re-engage. It’s maybe also finally understanding something, such as Little Women had a lot of points where it seems the mother was too moralistic on the girls.

In the end, I guess what I want to say is that for me, there is no such thing as engaging with something twice. Re-engage is not something that means to enjoy the same story just as it was, re-engage means more that you once more go into a story and discover it anew. So if you are someone who has always thought that to watch, read, or enjoy a media once was enough because after you already know the main plot- give it a try. You never know what surprises are still left to discover.

Resolutions: New Year Decisions & Trying New Things

I honestly debated about publishing this because I have a problem with accountability. Not that I don’t think it’s a good idea, it really is. Putting things out there on a public forum means that someone else knows that you are doing something. It means that they can remind you when you mess up. Or they can nudge you when you forget. But it can also really trigger your insecurities, and make perfectionism worse. That’s why I tend to hold back on publicizing my New Year Resolutions.

I have already talked about how I deal with some heavy Impostor Syndrome, and making resolutions is one of the ways it gets really strong with me. Putting it out there, something a lot of the listicles about New Year Resolutions suggest, can make it even more daunting for me. I will end up thinking that keeping the resolution, or any other similar kind of goal, is enough. There is suddenly a higher standard that I have to hold up the result to. In my head, it is not enough with just doing – it has to be perfect.

Funny enough, a lot of people will tell you that what matters in these situations is the doing. NaNoWriMo, for example, is all about getting you to write. They encourage you to get the word-count in and worry about editing once you are done. I’m sure that any person who writes can testify to how intimidating and difficult it can be to do this. The same applies to resolutions with me. But in an attempt to actually keep with them this year…I am doing this. In the end, it’s about myself, my goals, my resolutions, and my own want to reach them. So this year, I pledge a year of content. Every week there will be a new post, even if small. Here is a to a new year then, to resolutions, and creative ways of keeping them!


Featured Image from: Wikipedia Commons

Kissing Books: On Romance,Chicks and Missconceptions

Sometimes you are watching a movie and someone says something that makes you almost jump and say “That’s me!”. If there is one that made me do that it’s in The Princess Bride. The boy, having agreed to have his grandfather read him a story that was said to have sword fights and sports, instead contains romance in the first few pages he asks:

romance,kissing,princess bride,
Oh you bet it is

Everything from his exasperated look, annoyed tone, and on point delivery of that line spoke to me. I had found a kindred soul and a great thing to say whenever I ran into kissing books or movies. Now, this was when I first saw the film. I didn’t know that by the end he would be on board with all that kissing and “As you wish”es. Of course, so was I; but I proudly declared it was because this was “not like other romances”. Yes, this was indeed my “not like other girls” phase.

comform to noncomformity

For a very long time I was very vocal about my distaste for love stories. I would say I hated it when it was the central plot, when it was done all sugary and “girly”. See I didn’t hate romance itself. There was plenty of love stories I liked that where subplots, at least as far as I was concerned. I liked “unconventional” couples, or those that might not be so popular with fans. I was convinced that it was only that I was not into it. That because many people in my family did like these things I was just over saturated. It was just that I was not the “type” that liked these things. But as time passed, I realized that it was not exactly this.

There is this tendency to praise girls for putting others down. Hating on other girls seems to be seen by many as something unavoidable. One of the ways this tends to happen the most is by praising girls who reject femininity. Those who reject the things that the culture at large associates with this. Romance is often on the forefront. You are expected both to reject it and crave it. To want a relationship but not want it like those other girls do. To both shame the girls who wear high heels and embrace this while you build yourself a pedestal for wearing sneakers.

 diving in the chick pool

It took me some time, not just to unlearn those tendencies, but to realize what I was really saying when I would say I didn’t like these stories. It wasn’t the love story, it wasn’t the “girly” things. What I really disliked was the biased point of views of these stories. Most are attached to very heteronormative standards. There was also a lack of representation of the intersectional aspects of women themselves.  For example, 27 Dresses is a film that has so many aspects that follow standards of the Romantic Comedy, or Rom-Com. I can barely watch it. But then there is the webshow Her StoryIt shares many story elements, including one of the main couples meeting because one is a writer and wants to interview the other! But this story follows two trans women as they find love. It was written by two of the lead actresses. The cast includes a diverse group of queer women. It makes the same story lines get new life.

When You Realize The Only Thing That Kept You From Enjoying Things Was Internalized Outdated Ideas

I dived into the pool when I took a job as a ghost writer. I thought that even with my dislike, I had seen enough of these traditional rom-coms to be able to recreate it. Of course, a chickflick and a chicklit are two different forms of media. While they share elements they don’t work the same way. the right thing to do, I decided, was read at least one story.

My choice was The Boss by Abagail Barnette. Having seen it recommended in twitter as an answer to 50 Shades of Grey and the first book in the series being free, I went in with low expectations thinking it would just be some fun. Fast forward to the writer having announced a new part to the series and me looking to get it because I need it. While not as revolutionary as Her Story, it still had so many things in it that went against most of the conventions of romance. I was hooked.

who runs the book world-girls!

It wasn’t just a new appreciation for a genre I actually enjoy. I was also inroduced to a really great community. It might not be perfect and still have a lot to work on. But compared to other genre’s, romance writers are among the most experimental there is! And then there is the fact that the demographic is a majority of women. This genre is the one that centers around mostly women. And most importantly, it caters to the pleasures of women. This is not something that can be said for any of the other literary genre’s. Romance doesn’t want women to feel ashamed of their fantasies. Being so open to experimentation, it means this includes writers of color, queer writers, writers that combined different genres. Even with the many issues, there was still enough fish in this sea, so to speak.

So much can be written about the genre and it’s audience and writers. It’s a wonder that it is not regarded as something worthy of study unless it was written at some point in the 19th century. We can’t forget that during their time, a writer like Jane Austen was considered in a similar standing to all these books.

The appeal of this community, as well as this new found acceptance for my actual love of…well…love, also shaped my writing. Even when writing obvious romances,fan fictions in need of a huge thematic overhaul, I never would have considered myself as writing those. Looking at some of the excuses I would make about what these stories where, it makes me roll my eyes. Romance is a part of life. Yet we sneer at readers who like to fantasize about it. At the same time, we see nothing wrong with fantasizing about elves. The shame is such that romance helped push the sales of e-books, allowing many to read them without anyone knowing. There is no ignoring the main reason to why all this is shamed, seen as low quality, or ridiculed, is because the main audience and creators are women. Yet at the same time, this is what makes the genre so open. When you are seen as a failure from the start, you have nothing to loose.

A final note from a new convert

There is so much more I could add to this post and go deeper still in defense of chicklit and chickflicks. So many newfound authors to recommend like Alisha Rai, Rebekah Weatherspoon, and Gaby Rivera, to name a few. So many sites to find varied books by diverse writers. The community and genre is so grand and diverse there is a documentary about it. The firs bookstore dedicated exclusively to romance and it’s sub-genres (which can shop at online)opened recently in California. Much can be written about the genre and it’s audience and writers. It’s a wonder that it is not regarded as something worthy of study unless it was written at some point in the 19th century. We can’t forget that during their time, a writer like Jane Austen was considered in a similar standing to all these books.

I still don’t like a lot of what is out there when it comes to romance. Too many a chickflick, rom-com, or chicklit book still have so may of the tropes that made me avoid the genre in the first place. But generalizing meant I missed out on some aspects that I would have always liked. Accepting it was these tropes, not the story, itself that bothered me helped me stop feeling like romance just was not a part of my life and probably would never be. It’s a pity that it took this long to unlearn these internalized, at points self-hating, views that kept me from enjoying these stories. I suppose what I would want to add to this community is more voices that move away from these damaging tropes. I can’t wait to get my hands on a new kissing book I would love.

princess bride, romance, chicklit,chickflick,rom-com
Lets not forget how this movie ends
 what are some of your favorite kissing books or movies? did you have anything in particular that made you fall for it or had you always loved romance? share your own experiences and favorites in the comments!

Featured Image: The inside of The Ripped Bodice, in California.  From the store site.

Harley & Ivy Sitting On A Tree: Shipping & Why It Matters

Shipping, it makes the fandom world go round. Coming from the word “relationship”, it is how people describe the pairs (or more) they like in a given piece of media. “Shippers” can be very passionate, there is a lot of reasons why someone wants a certain relationship to happen and many times it can be very personal. Queer ships many time stem from lack of representation. The same is true of many interracial ships, a lot of times involving women of color who are seen as “needing no one”. Many times these shipers know they will never see this relationship be made canon. But once in a blue moon, some writer decides to go ahead, and you end up with canon representation. And this is just one of the reasons why Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy are so important

across the dc universe

Created by Paul Dini and Bruce Timm for the Batman animated series of the early 90’s, Harley Quinn was introduced as a sidekick for the Joker. She became so popular that DC Comics, the company that owns all of the Batman franchise, added her to the comic books during one of their biggest story events. That introduction included the character that would become key in her story, Poison Ivy. Already having been teamed up in the animated series, it made sense her comic book counterpart would also be close to “Red”, as she affectionally calls her. And from the start there was one thing that was very clear, these two were not just platonic.

poison ivy, harley quinn
Just Gals Being Pals, Right?

The biggest barrier to this ship was simply how Harley had been introduced. She was created as a brilliant psychiatrist that falls in love with the Joker. It gave way for one of the most realistic portrayals of an abusive and toxic relationship in media. The Joker would routinely put her down and physically assault her. When she manages to capture Batman in one of the most intense episodes of the series, Joker answers by getting furious and throwing her out a window. Her introduction in the comics starts with Joker putting her in a rocket and launching her because he thought he might feel something for her. Of course, after all these he would come back to her, tell her he was sorry and would never do it again, and ask her to come back. And she would, to many it was seen as a misunderstood ship. This is something that has continued on, the merchandising that includes them romanticizes this to the degree that Hot Topic has a pair of rubber bracelets that define this as “relationship goals”.

Harley Quinn
An Example From An Article That Discusses This Deeper

From Whisper to roar

At the same time, the relationship between her and Poison Ivy was also being developed. The feeling was obvious from Ivy’s side, so much so that it is pointed out, if mishandled, during one of their comics. It was as close to validation as many thought we would get. And while it did cement Poison Ivy as a representation of a queer character, it was one that of course had to end in unhappiness. That was until the less than subtle intro Ivy gets in Harley Quinn’s solo comics. Even with this it took them some time to come out and just say it, they officially where a couple consisting of two queer women. Considering with how little representation bisexuals get in media, having a character such as Harley who is so prominent and important being one was a gift. This, of course, did not sit well with those that are not comfortable with this kind of love.

Harley Queen, Poison Ivy,
The Importance Of This Panel Cannot Be Underestimated

When the new DC film, Suicide Squad, was announced as having Harley in it’s cast there was a mixed reaction. For one, it was great to see more female characters in the movies, specially one as complex as Harley. But on the other hand, the movie also announced the Joker as being in the movie. It didn’t just feel like a step back, it was a almost a run backwards when one considers how more than once Harley Quinn has spoken about leaving the abusive relationship with the Joker, and she more than once clearly severed ties with him. With the film having them both, it brought back this abusive relationship being shown in a romantic way. This is specially visible in merchandise like the above mentioned bracelets, merchandise that is primarily aimed at teens. The more it kept going around the more I wondered, why would anyone consider this ship anything but toxic? Why insist on her coming back to this man? And then it hit me…it is exactly that, having her be with a man.


The blinders of heteronormativity

The only reason to ship Harley with Joker is to keep her in a heterosexual relationship. There is no other reason as to why anyone would try to see the very obvious abuse and violence as what it is. Those who try to defend it use similar arguments as the defense for 50 Shades of Grey, that because Harley does this “willingly” she is not being abused. Not only does this show a fundamental misunderstanding of how victims of abuse can be, it ignores that in a relationship where there is an obvious power imbalance there is no way you can have complete consent. But to accept this and accept her relationship with Poison Ivy, it makes it clear that Harley Quinn is queer. To allow her to be in a happy relationship, have an equal partner, means embracing what the queer side of fandom has already embraced. It means going against the dominant heteronormativity that has been the “norm”

Shipping is important, it says much of ourselves and society. To me, shipping Harley with the Joker means you would prefer a woman be abused and mistreated than to love another woman. It means you have such a need for this character to be heterosexual, maybe because you are yourself, that you would be willing to ignore the obvious signs of toxicity. Again, this is why shipping matters. Harley Quinn is an out and proud queer woman and so is Poison Ivy. They are in a loving relationship and both are very happy. Wanting Harley to return to the Joker is saying you prefer to eliminate her unhappiness rather than let her be. Shipping them means you prefer a negative heterosexual relationship over a queer one. It is similar to how the aforementioned 50 Shades of Grey movie got promotion everywhere but the mere suggestion of queer parents in an ad makes so many clutch their pearls and ask to think of the children.

harley quinn, poison ivy, shipping,fandom
Here Is To Hopping The Words Don’t Apply Just To The Book

I am happy that Harley and Ivy have been made official. I am happy this will be something set for posterity. I much prefer children see a happy and healthy relationship and aspire to that, instead of thinking that a kiss with a fist is better. There is truly much more damage in condoning Joker’s constant abuse of Harley than her kissing Ivy. And all I can hope is that they join the legion of long lived comic book pairs. This ship, as so many shippers would say, sails itself. It really should be no contest. But if your discomfort, prejudice, dislike, or outright hate of two queer women in love pushes you to make excuses for said woman being beat,berated, and nearly killed; maybe the real problem is not in in who she loves.

Featured Image From Harley #25, found through Tumblr

do you consider fandoms and shipping important? Do you have other similar stories in other media? Are there head-canons you wish were real? Join the conversation in the comments!

What Minesweeper Can Teach You About Life

I’m going to go ahead and start with a cliche: there was a time, young ones, where computers did not have many distractions built in and pc gaming to most people meant your computer had Solitaire at the least. There were a few other card games, some types of board games like Mahjong, and more arcade ones like the Space Cadet Pinball. One of the best known ones was MinesweeperI was mostly a player of card or pinball, I would get so annoyed with Minesweeper. The purpose being to avoid the mines I almost always ended up hitting one pretty fast. But once I learned how to play it,and realized it took patience and not randomness, I managed to get a bit further. And this aspect is what came to my mind a few days ago.

minesweeping 101

For anyone who doesn’t know it, the game consisted of a grid that varies in size depending on levels. At the top of the grid there is a smiley face in the center, a counter on the left, and a timer on the right. When you click the squares in the grid you get one of two effects: either you will get a number in the square or you will find a mine, thus exploding all the ones in the grid. If you get the number you have  a chance to spot mines. It tells you how many squares near by have mines. This is where patience comes in. You have to mark the mines to avoid exploding them, basically a guessing game with only the number to guide you. You win the game by flagging all the mines and not tripping them.


All these aspects came to mind recently when I realized that the patience and care you need while playing Minesweeper can train you for life. For a lot of people, the everyday means walking around a grid that is full of mines they can’t find. Sometimes they click, they will talk to someone or find a safe place or something similar, and it will give them an idea of mines close buy. Maybe you are talking about, say, politics with someone and you will see the numbers pop up. If you are mindful then you can avoid hitting a metaphorical mine. And this is just one example of how it applies.

little red flags of mindfulness

Mindfulness is something that gets a bad rep in todays world. Usually associated with “PC” friendly, it’s seen as a negative and we are supposed to see it as a form of censorship even. But mindfulness is something that many groups in society have been cultivating for a very long time. Those who navigate a world where they are victims of many of societies prejudices you keep a close eye on those numbered squares. As said above, every conversation becomes a grid. It happens with family, friends, everyone. You check yourself and hope you wont say or do the wrong thing that will set off these mines.

minesweeper,minesweeper flag

The thing is, it’s not just those on that side of the conversation that can benefit from this training in mindfulness. A lot of times, people who are not affected by this don’t consider that someone could be hearing mines go off. Many times, privilege helps people ignore the mines. To them, people don’t have numbers that say how many mines are around them. Many of them are playing the game by randomly clicking. They ave gotten lucky and in their grid they haven’t hit a mine so the believe they don’t need to pay attention to the numbers. The mines seem to be nonexistent, but in reality they still have them. To those who have to be more mindful, they have just probably found more numbers, more things they have to be careful about.

Minesweeping your way through life

Let’s be clear, many of those who are careful to not explode the mines you have around you are not doing it for you. Not really. They do it for their safety. Mines are bombs after all, exploding one can result in serious consequences. And in many cases when the mine of a privileged person blows it doesn’t hurt them, just the one who was more vulnerable from the start. It’s not so much about your comfort as it is their safety. Every number to them is a new aspect of themselves they have to keep quiet and hidden.


Because it’s not just about talking, many moderate their actions, mannerisms, and even what kind of tastes in media or pop culture and such they let come out. This is where being mindful works for those with privilege. Imagine this game as one with multiple players, instead of just single. While clicking randomly may work for you, in someone else’s grid you just set off more alerts. It might have even set out their mines and they have to restart their game. The game is no longer just about you. So keep in mind they are being mindful, return the favor.

I guess what I want to say with this is that the main lesson from Minesweeper would be to be more mindful. We live in a world where a lot of people think a lot of the prejudice’s of the past are gone. But to the people who actually deal with these prejudices can tell you very differently. The struggle is, indeed, very real.

If you want to train your patience a bit, you can play Minesweeper online here!

Beating Impostor Syndrome (At Least Enough To Get Ahead)

Let’s not kid around, a lot of people have a soundtrack to their lives. I don’t mean a playlist in your music player, or that there is literal music that follows you around. A lot of you have probably said the phrase “this reminds me of xyzsong!”. And sometimes it’s not even music you listen to. It can be a random jingle, maybe an instrumental piece or a song that you heard once on the radio. But the thing is that if your life was movie, it would have started playing at that moment. For me, one of the songs that does this the most is “I Got Confidence” from Sound Of Music. I don’t have it in my Ipod, I am not even that big of a fan of the movie. But that song will pop a lot in my head…usually when I have zero confidence. It’s the soundtrack to the moments I am convinced I am fraud and people will find out. This song plays whenever I get the impostor syndrome.


confidence, sound of music, impostor syndrome

Impostor Syndrome is the feeling that somehow you don’t deserve an achievement you have recently made. It usually includes feeling you have somehow gotten this through less than honest means. Most people associate it with academia but truth is, it happens in a lot of situations. A recent promotion, a debate, awards, being in a position most people don’t associate with some aspect of yourself such as race or gender, they can all trigger it. But the main idea is that your confidence suddenly disappears.

confidence,sound of music,impostor syndrome

Now sometimes the moment passes by quickly. You can take a deep breath and go one, maybe you listen to some inspirational pep talk or a funny story, or maybe google something and then begin skimming through articles, or look for tips. And yet, there are times where even the more theatrical of ideas can take you out of the slump. That is when you have run into a problem. Because it is no longer just a lingering doubt, it might even be paralysing! So here are a few ideas to deal with this, even when you think you can’t deny impostor syndrome.

Know your enemy

Most people are familiar with the first of the Twelve Step Program. The simplest way to describe it is that to solve a problem you first have to recognize it. The impostor syndrome will make you think the problem is yourself and there is no way to solve it. And here is where the problem can come in. Many people who write on this assume you can easily spot when the feeling of being a failure is not real. But not everyone can simply switch around their thoughts.

This doesn’t only include people where the self doubt is tied to deeper issues such as depression or anxiety, in some cases impostor syndrome stays because you stand out in a group. Race, gender, sexuality, culture, and more plays a role. When you see no one like you this can lead to you thinking that indeed you somehow coned everyone. It also can mean that you don’t consider that you can’t even be on the route to impostor syndrome because you are not the kind of person who succeeds.

Broken walls near Qutub Minar
When doesn’t provide a door…

Creating a strategy

How do you forge ahead when it seems that you either are an impostor or that you wont even get the chance to experience the wonders of crippling self doubt? Well, let’s see it from this other point of view, what do you have to loose? At least that has been what I have been trying to think.

It’s easier said than done, that is very true. So this idea might seem contradictory: get a second opinion. In my case I usually ask someone to read things over as I write them. It’s people I trust to be honest about both things that need fixing as well as things that are right. Getting a second opinion can help calm your insecurities. How ever, considering this is on what to do when they don’t go away for good, make sure you either find one person who doesn’t mind being sent work repeatedly or more than one person you can send the work too.

Race, gender, sexuality, culture, and more plays a role. When you see no one like you this can lead to you thinking that indeed you somehow coned everyone. It also can mean that you don’t consider that you can’t even be on the route to impostor syndrome because you are not the kind of person who succeeds.

Social media can be a wonderful tool for the aspect of believing you are not “the right kind” of person. In these spaces you can find not just people who you can exchange ideas with but also people who can help you find previous work that you can identify with! You can find campaigns, curated masterlists, websites with critics from different backgrounds, or just a good community. When you see these kinds of works or meet these people you start realizing that the audience you thought would never exists for you is there and looking for more.

Finally, one of the things that can help is changing how you define goals. It’s a common piece of advice that if you set smaller than a bigger ones you have a better chance at reaching them. And it’s true. Learning to celebrate smaller goals can help deal with impostor syndrome because you might have an easier time embracing these small goals. Something like a promotion might seem like a daunting goal and once you get to it you might feel that you are behind a curtain about to be revealed by a girl from Kansas and her dog. But maybe something like setting an amount of work to do in a time, like say a weekly goal, it’s easier to feel you did accomplish these smaller points. An example of a current small time goal for me? This post.

Getting around to writing this was a process. It was a rather crazy and not at all linear process. I still feel a lot like an impostor. I could say I am going to ignore the voice in my head but it’s not true. Impostor syndrome is not necessarily something you beat easily. And even when you have, you never know if it will come back. For now, I am going to go ahead and take the plunge and have confidence on confidence alone. Who knows, maybe it will become confidence in me.

Do you have your own ways of dealing with impostor syndrome? Share on the comments! 

Featured Image By Tom Woodward, cropped for emphasis.